I have always wanted to be two things: a mother, and a creative person.
Motherhood gave me the confidence and opportunity to be a creative
person, and creating is making me a better mother.
I had spent the last 6+ years working at a job that was great, but not thrilling. I was paid well, given lots of generous perks, my boss
treated me like family. But I always felt like I wanted to be creating,
doing, learning. Although I really liked what I did, it just wasn't
inspiring me.
Then, almost 10 months ago, I had my daughter Rosie.
This single event
has changed my life more than almost any other (understatement of the
year.) I returned to work full time when Rosie was 5 1/2 months old, but
it was enormously difficult to keep our family life running smoothly
and happily with both my husband and I working full time outside the
house. Weekdays were a crazy race to bedtime, weekends were just two
busy days filled with chores. I felt like I was missing everything, and
worse, I felt like I didn't even know my own child anymore. We would
spend the weekend scouring the log sheets that came home with her from
daycare, trying to find some clue as to what she wanted next. It broke
my heart.
Simultaneously, I had spent a massive amount of time designing
invitations for my sisters wedding in September and it felt so
invigorating to create! I have always loved to decorate and make things
pretty. I have rearranged and styled my living room and bedroom several
times since we bought our house in 2009. I didn't know how, but I knew I
wanted to do something to use the passion I had for making things
beautiful. And I needed to do it soon before I let it die inside me.
I know that sounds dramatic, but I think many people have had a similar
feeling. Working a job that doesn't use the passion and skill you
possess, having an urge to just stop EVERYTHING and make a change right
now. I also wanted to my know my daughter better and felt she needed me.
I didn't want my whole life to only include my daughter, but I wanted
her to be more in focus. My husband and I decided our family needed
someone at home more, so I quit my well paying job and decided to follow
my dreams. Hoping someday my daughter would also be inspired and have
the confidence to follow her dreams.
When I came across this quote by the Dalai Lama: "The more you are
motivated by love, the more fearless and free your action will be." it
really affected me. It was scary leaving a great job with good pay to
work part time and stay home with my daughter, but I was motivated by my
love for her, our family, and for my dreams. That love (and tons of
family support) gave me confidence that this was the right action for
me.
This blog is dedicated to my new beginning. Being who I am, living what I love, and striving towards who I can be.
(photography: Shana Duncan, drawings added by me)
